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Common Painful Feelings

The real value of this page is to help you identify your unmet emotional needs. For example, if you feel excluded, your unmet need is to feel included. This is similar to realizing you feel hungry so you can then realize that you need food and you can start to focus on finding what your body needs for healthy growth and survival.

Dignity/
Respect/Self-Worth

Ashamed
Beaten down
Cut down
Criticized
Dehumanized
Disrespected
Embarrassed
Fake/False/
Inauthentic
Humiliated
Inferior
Insulted
Invalidated
Labeled
Lectured to
Masked
Mocked
Offended
Put down
Resentful
Ridiculed
Self-hatred
Stereotyped
Teased
Used
Underestimated

Freedom/
Control/Motivation

Bored
Bossed around
Burdened
Coerced
Controlled
Dependent
Dragged around
Helpless
Hopeless
Imposed upon
Imprisoned
Inhibited
Interrupted
Isolated
Invaded
Forced
Manipulated
Obligated
Overwhelmed
Over-controlled
Pessimistic
Powerless
Pressured
Restricted
Suffocated
Trapped
Unfree
Uninspired
Unmotivated

Love/
Connection/Importance

Abandoned
Alone
Brushed off
Burdensome
Confused
Disappointing
Disapproved of
Discouraged
Empty
Excluded
Ignored
In the way
Inadequate
Insignificant
Invisible
Left out
Lonely
Neglected
Rejected
Replaced
Unappreciated
Uncared about
Unempathized with

Unheard
Unknown
Unimportant
Uninformed
Unloved
Unneeded
Useless
Unsupported
Unvalued
Unwanted
Worthless

Justice/
Truth/Understanding

Accused
Blamed
Cheated
Confused
Disbelieved
Falsely accused
Guilty
Guilt-tripped
Interrogated
Judged
Lied about
Lied to
Misled
Misunderstood
Not Understood
Punished
Robbed


Safety and Trust

Abused
Afraid
Attacked
Cynical
Defensive
Frightened
Guarded
Insecure
Intimidated
Over-protected
Paralyzed
Scared
Self-destructive
Skeptical
Suspicious
Terrified
Threatened
Under-protected
Unsafe
Untrusted
Untrusting
Violated

 

 


Using This List to Help Someone Else

It can be very helpful to show this list to someone. Then ask them to discuss or explain each feeling which applies to them. This can lead to a plan to address each negative feeling and its causes and possible solutions.

 

 


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